That’s right – I was accused of being a feminist. When and why did this happen?
I was defending the rights of women to choose not to be married or have children and if they do get marriage to not be subservient to their husbands. I also admitted the fact that marriage scares the crap out me and I have issues with giving up control. I wasn’t being radical (at least I didn’t think I was being radical).
However in the middle of my arguments, I was asked – “You are a feminist, aren’t you?” No, not asked – accused – in a tone of voice that inferred that being a feminist places me in a group of rabid men-hating-women.
When did radical feminism become feminism? When did all women who talk about and believe in the empowerment of women become a bra-burning lesbian? (those words weren’t used but I know the connotations of radical feminism – nor is there anything wrong with being a lesbian). Fortunately, my fore-mothers did the “bra-burning”. So, I will not apologize and I certainly will not let ignorant men make me feel ashamed of being associated with such a pivotal movement.
I went to an all girls high school and practically grew up with the dictates of empowered womanhood; so I am completely shocked when something as powerful as feminism is viewed in a negative light. After-all, who is a feminist but “an advocate or supporter of the rights and equality of women”.
So, in answer to the accusation – my answer is YES – Unequivocally, without apology; YES, I am a Feminist.
I recently came across the following article about other women being accused of radical feminism – see excerpt and link below.
Change has come to the Catholic Church. After centuries of accusing women who disagree with them of witchcraft, they’ve abandoned their antiquated ways and embraced a more modern way of thinking — accusing women who disagree with them of “radical feminism.” And you say the Church isn’t progressive!
Have you ever been accused of being a feminist? Please share, I would love to hear your stories.